Phase defined by the dictionary: a distinct period or stage in the process of change.
I’m going through a phase right now. I woke up this morning at around 6am (it’s now about 3 hours later). I sat with the OCD taking up the empty space beside me on my right in my bed. We chatted and it spoke to me and I pondered about how I was going to get through the next two days, how I could ensure that I go get hospitalized at MSE versus any other uncertain place, how I knew I was planning my own relapse.
And how a couple hours later… that relapse has occurred.
Part of me just wants to FEEL something. To have a good CRY. But no tears are coming. They’re locked inside my chest, and I don’t – or can’t – find the key to let them out.
Like I said yesterday, I feel like I’m going mad. Pardon the language. I feel like my marbles are swimming away and being crushed by boots from the sky. I feel a lump in my throat because I have to see my psychiatrist today and I’m afraid he might send me to the hospital today, right then and there.
I just want to FEEL. I want the OCD to go away. I want to get that “bliss” it’s been telling me I’d feel if I scratched myself again. Where is it, now, huh? Come on OCD, where’s this so called bliss you told me about??
Part of it is because I’ve grown tolerant. Part of it is that I don’t want to self-harm again. Part of it is me thinking if I get it out of my system that’s just all I need.
What sums up my position at the moment is this drawing:

All the feelings we sometimes go through when deciding whether to move towards recovery or keep on regressing.
I don’t know whether to go forward (to recovery again) or spend some time going backwards (regressing/relapse/lapse land).
I don’t have the answer yet. I know I’m not never going to go back to recovery (pardon the double negative), I know this is just a phase and once I can strengthen myself again I’ll be back on the path of recovery 110%. I know my momentum is just puttering out. I just need to be refreshed on why recovery is so important to me, why it’s better than the glorification of the OCD, why I’m important to recover.
This time is new and different. I’m not severely depressed like I was last year. I’m just dealing with – or not dealing with – more frequent bouts of the OCD and the prospect that a job is waiting out for me in the summer time longer than like tomorrow. OR today. And that, I admit, is a bit depressing and has been triggering more of the OCD which well, I think you can imagine the cycle.
This is just a phase. Recovery is not a linear process. We all have ups and downs. I will be okay again. I just need some extra help right now. It’s been a long while coming.
Stay safe lovelies. β€ β€ β€ Keep on holding on.
Aww great π I couldn’t even remember telling you about this but apparently I did. I must have been in a different personality! Dissociation makes me forget stuff then I read it back and think, wowzers, someone clever wrote that then it dawns on me that it was me ππ haha π xxx
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Oh my! Haha, that is a little funny. ^^; I’m thankful for whoever it was in you that wrote it though π
Is it difficult dealing with all the different personalities?
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In a word, YES! It’s very hard to keep track mentally of where I’m at, who I am, who I’m with, and who they are in relation to me. I constantly feel like I’m an old lady with dementia who has lost her marbles. My mind is constantly befuddled (eccentric English word!) πππ X
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Wow, that does sound like a lot!! How do you cope/manage with all of that?
Befuddled… what a marvelous word! =]
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I don’t cope! I just drift through life confused, asking people around me questions to jog my memory, writing things down as much as poss and making myself look like a fool often. π«π‘π
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π¦ That sucks!! Sorry to hear that D:
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It’s pants!!! π«
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Not the pants! :O
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Yes-its that bad!!! π
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The pants are the worst *shakes head*
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Haha yup πππ Thanks for making me giggle on a bad day, really appreciate it π
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You’re welcome! =]
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I nominated you for an award on my blog lovely xx rooting for you always xx
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Thank you!! β€ β€ *hugs* I appreciate this encouragement.
And yay, I just finished it up now! Great questions!!
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I can help you if you tell me how?…would it help for a start if I reminded you of your BADASS AWESOMENESS!!! Xx
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Ahahah, yessss, that reminder of my badassery helped quite a bit! =]
I suppose, just a general reminder of why one chooses recovery and that I’ll get through this lapse or relapse or whatever it is, would be helpful :3
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Don’t have time for a well thought out long answer now as I have to get the kids up for school, but in a nutshell, recovery is not a final destination that one day you get to. Recovery is a process, that to varying degrees of intensity takes an annoyingly long time…relapse and lapse is part of recovery, but everytime you relapse or lapse you reenter the recovery spiral at a new place, a location further on than your previous start point. Google recovery spiral-it is a theory that relates to overcoming addictions but can easily be applied to recovery from any mental health disorder in my opinion. Hope this helps xxx πππ
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This helped a whole lot, thank you!! I kept your words in my mind as I went through this week and they really did help. It was like hearing myself talk to me but from a different person which means even more than the world. β€ β€
Thank you, hun!!
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