“Why Don’t You Write My Eulogy Now So I Can Correct It?” (2019) | BES: Aug. 2021


CHOSEN BOOK:

“Why Don’t You Write My Eulogy Now So I Can Correct It?” (2019) by Patricia Marx and illustrated by Roz Chast

((nonfic; humor))


TRIGGER WARNINGS:

Heavy on the topic of food, judgments, “skinny days”.


THEMES:

Dinner parties, food, stiff personalities, humor, brevity, introduction, illustrations, words from a mother, jokes, advice, water colors, wallpaper, color, patterns, artistry, creativity, light read, caring about what others think.


SUMMARY:

If you’re looking for a decently easy read without a lot of weight in terms of topics and just something to fill in some of your time while you read short sentences and view illustrations that are pleasing to the eye, this may be the short read for you!

I picked out this book from the nonfiction humor section at the library and if anything, it helped remind me of a similar though more serious and more engaging book that I own and have owned for a couple of years now regarding the wisdom passed down from mothers and loved ones (a book I began but never finished, obtained Oct-Nov 2018 approximately, maybe 2019, I hope to read it through fully one day soon, it’s called “What To Do When I’m Gone” by Suzy Hopkins and Hallie Bateman). Personally for me, this book by Marx and Chast was okay but nothing really groundbreaking and nothing that I’m taking away a whole lot from. It was nice to read though and get another perspective on the types of mothers that exist out in the world. Arguably, it makes this BES post pretty easy too, which I need because my latest BES post for QI I’ve been avoiding lately and procrastinating on and I’m only doing this post first so I get one other book done and returned soon, and then can trick myself into working on that post to get it done and let loose into The Void. Back to this book though, it was pretty food and dinner party focused and there were some things I didn’t jive with but that could just be from my point of view. More on that later.

I do think the illustrations of this book really adds a shine to it that would be otherwise dull and boring without them, so that is some great teamwork!! If you pick up this book yourself, what do you think stands out the most for you? Are my observations in this post different and what challenges could you raise from my own words that you could add into the blogosphere as well? More opinions, more eyes, more minds are great, great things. Cheers, my friends!!


BOOK LENGTH:

81 pages


MY RECOMMENDATION SCORE:

1/5


OUTSTANDING QUOTES, IDEAS OR IMAGES:

  1. So, this is generally how the book is set up: the far left page features either a blank water color solid color or a water colored pattern that reminds me especially so of wallpaper. Sometimes the theme of this is carried over to the right page where it may make an appearance in the illustration, but it’s not always the case either so this may have just been a stylistic choice. On the right page, is the advice from Marx’s mother with an accompanying illustration by Chast. Her style is quite scratchy and colorful and full, and great, great additions to the work of text. I particularly enjoyed the water color wallpaper and some of the usage of either black solid colors on the left or this rich and creamy vanilla, butterscotch type color. 😁😍😊
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  3. Personally for the above picture, I thought it was just lovely art and quirky enough and aesthetically pleasing to the eye. Far better than anything else I could come up with myself!! I love the use of light and shadow… I really ought to use more shadow in my own work haha. Love it. (Marx & Chast, 2019, p. 9)
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  5. We all know how much I LOVE rainbows, so it’s only fitting that this beautiful, beautiful illustration sees the light of the Internet and the powerful and interesting advice that makes it up–though I’m not sure how much you could get away with that today!! Love the shadow, the light and the detail and scratchiness of it all. What do you think? I think this is my favorite one by far. 🧑🧑🧑 (Marx & Chast, 2019, p. 21).

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THOUGHTS OR IDEAS I HAD WHILE READING:

Not really any that stood out for this book, and honestly I think this is the shortest BES post I’ve ever done in the last 5 years lmao It probably won’t ever be this short again, I imagine. This book overall was all right, not anything super spectacular though or something I was super engaged in or had time for other things to think about. I’d say I was pretty mindful during it and that the flags I did write down were largely regarding the illustrations more than the text itself. I’d also say the short length was helpful because it made it all the more easy to ingest in a short, timely fashion.


CRITICAL CORNER:

So, when I chose this book I was very intrigued and curious and the short length did stand out to me quite a bit. Again, like I mentioned in the summary, it reminded me of this other book I started to read, own and never finished, and so I thought this book in question would hold the same amount of weight, relevancy, importance and significance. I was quite a bit disappointed. I feel like Marx’s mother and her priorities (particularly so much talk of dinner parties) were sloppy at best and borderline irritant and stiff and harsh at other times. Her mother seems to be quite concerned of what everyone else is thinking and by Marx’s own account, her mother would be nice and kind to everyone else first but less so and less soft and gooey with her own kids. Marx has taken this well though because she views being told the truth and not having it sugarcoated as more authentic and fundamental, knowing her mother wouldn’t tell her nonsense if she didn’t mean it and Marx has learned to live around it. I do wonder how this would be a challenge if other ailments like mental or physical health would be at play and how this might not bode well for such instances. It kinda reminds me of Odin and how I write him in my fanfic involving the teenage, mental health one, D&D. It’s…interesting.


MY EXPERIENCES: WHAT KEPT ME READING AND THE BOOK’S IMPACT ON ME:

I’d definitely say the short length of this book was super duper appealing. But I also think I barely got anything significant or interesting to take away from this book. I don’t think it had much of an impact and makes me see where my own Mom has done a lot more than maybe some other mothers out there. I also feel that for the author themselves that as the book went on the narrower and narrower their target audience became.

But maybe you will find something more out of it yourself!! I suggest you pick it up at the library and glib your way through it with a patient stroll. You never know what you might find!!

This again is probably the first time I’ve ever written such a short post and I’m grateful to be able to get it done (even if I was looking at it like a chore most of the time while writing, and even more so the dread that is going to come when I have to address my neglected other BES post for QI, but I know I have to do it, I have to not avoid! I have to DO!) Okay, let’s hurry on and get to the editing phase of this and then the final publication button.

Thanks so much for reading this post and stay tuned for my next and upcoming ones!! After I publish QI, would you rather see a new BES or my revival of an old one from years ago? Let me know in the comments!!! Stay safe out there. xxx


My next book to read is…. & My next BES post focuses on….

Next BES: “Quiet Influence”

Next nonfic book: “Dear Life”; next fic book “Hazards of Time Travel”


TRACKING DATES AND CHUNKS OF TIME I READ THIS BOOK:

8/9/2021 (evening), 8/10 (late morning), 8/20 (evening).

TRACKING DATES AND CHUNKS OF TIME I WROTE THIS REVIEW:

8/23/2021 (evening).

Where I’m At: Life Update | #mhblogger


I was kinda thinking of doing a different post before I went to eat dinner but now I don’t feel like writing that one, either. So, I’ll just talk about life and what’s been going on with me and then set off to be offline for about an hour before I go to sleep because I would love to spend some time reading a little, even if it’s just for a few minutes! 😊

So, what’s been going on?

I’ve been uploading some videos to my channel! I really do want to comment and network more on Youtube but I keep just lurking or getting intimidated or disinterested in certain videos. If you happen to be a blogger on Youtube into video-making, hit me up and we can support one another there and through here! I’d love to have a few projects or items on my list where I have to or expect to interact with as this will provide me a great deal of accountability and I’ll come out of the shadows for once in my life yet again ahaha. Right now it’s just easier to lurk but I know that getting and putting myself out there is what really counts. It’s just hard.

I’m really stuck and stagnant in my recovery in general right now too. I keep hitting the same brick wall and doing the same behaviors that aren’t helping me (avoidance) but I’m not sure if I’m ready to change or if I have it in me right now to change or whether or not that will be such a good thing. I mean, I guess, I’m not sure if I’m ready yet and maybe that’s okay that I can be aware of it and have my hesitancy of going forwards or just remaining still for a little while. I’m not sure. It’s all so complicated and I’m tired. I’m tired of always having to work on myself, I’d like a break for a while. Maybe that can be okay too. That the pause isn’t forever, it’s just temporary. Hmm…

I helped my Mom revitalize a bookshelf down downstairs today. So I got rid of the 5 or 6 piles of books that I own from their place on my bedroom floor into two of the shelves instead. I will have to reorganize it a little for what’s left but that’s been pretty good.

I really just want to read a book right now, it seems. But I am also quite tired in general so maybe I will try to sleep before 11p.

I have a doctor’s appointment tomorrow that I’m actually looking forward to. I’ve spoken about it in therapy today and my psychiatry appointment on Mon so it’ll be nice to hopefully get some answers and a guide forwards for uncovering medical issues and running tests and such.

Additionally, I took a shower today and had a great massage! I just started my period yesterday though and some of its mess got through my underwear and onto the blanket today while I was there and I was aghast for sure! It’s never happened like that before but luckily my massage therapist is a female anyways and she was super understanding. πŸ˜€

My dating friend had to go back to the hospital today. There’s really not much I can do about that or even feel about it, I just hope that they’ll get the help that they need. And that I will have to hold onto hope and faith that they’ll be okay and when they get out is when they get out. I want what’s best for them of course and I hope they go into a better hospitalization than this past one. I hope that they can find healing and peace very soon, and I know we’re in different spots of our recoveries as well, so this is somewhat comforting. It sucks but the truth is that love is sometimes not enough for those on the warpath of self-destruction. It’s a familiar fight, sure, and I know my dating friend will get better. We’re just at different spots. (And I still admire and look to the fact that they’re interested in dating as a remarkable sign of strength. It’s something I wouldn’t have been able to do way back when). Mmm.

I have a presentation tomorrow afternoon that I honestly keep forgetting about. That will be interesting. I should probably send out an email about that real quick, actually….

My knee is very sore and achy from having it in a stiffened position most of today. Ooof.

As for the next video I’m editing, it’s going to be my introduction to a ‘Healthier Living: The Path of Weight Gain and Pro-Recovery’ or something along those lines. That will be nice and I really look forward to editing it and then uploading it, probably next week. I have to pick it back up again too for the whole filming process, but that will be nice. I look forward to that tomorrow. πŸ’š

Lastly, actually, I think that’s all that I’ll share for now. I really do want to crack open a book, maybe watch a video or two more and then get myself to sleep because my doctor’s appointment is early tomorrow morning (like 10a ahaha). Feel free to mention in the comments how you are doing and what new artsy creations you’ve managed over the past week. And let’s try and support one another in those endeavors and lift each other up. 😁😚 Thank you so much for reading.

I’ll see you tomorrow.

xxx

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PS There is of course more I could say regarding my physical health but I don’t feel the need to go into it right now. Also, I’ve decided today that I’ll be doing 2x/week videos in June about my experiences and info regarding scoliosis and then ending the month with my body positivity video, so I’m really excited about that going forwards!